RoKo, Women Cricket Team & Lessons of Life!

 

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“It is not true that everyone is special. It is true that everyone was once special and still possesses the ability to recover it & only the Very Special does that.”
― Criss Jami

“Redemption is something you have to fight for in a very personal, down-dirty way. Some of our characters lose that, some stray from that, and some regain it.”
― Joss Whedon

Fun is, when the entire world says you won’t be able to achieve something & you just do that… Me.

Criss Jami i.e. Christopher James, born May 29, 1987 in Lynchburg, VA, is the author of several books, creator/designer of Killosopher Apparel, and the musician for the metal project Crymson Gryphon. Joseph Hill "Joss" Whedon is an American screenwriter, director, producer, comic book writer, and composer. And no need for third one i.e. Me, as I just try to narrate whatever I have understood by reading words from great names such as of Criss or Joss! The subject is cricket & I was fortunate (just like many other cricket fans around the world) to witness two wonderful moments in the week of Diwali, which will go a long long way in the history of Indian cricket! One was the RoKo show & another was the semifinal of Women One World Cup & incidentally (or irony) is in both cases the opponent was Australia or say, the Australia! I have always regarded Aussies as a deadliest opponent for many reasons as one they are physically strong by their DNA & that’s a plus point in most of the games. Another is, they may not be skilled or gifted but they believe in practice & doing things methodically. And Aussies are ruthless in any game & doesn’t take any game casually making them very less vulnerable. Last & most important thing, they play to win every match especially the big matches & all these characteristics makes them champions in any game they play to which cricket is not an exception & that’s why to play against Aussies in any game on any venue is a challenge for any team to which team India is not an exception! Whenever its cricket then for decades Bharat-Pak match was supposed to be an epitome of any tournament & as the political situation between the two countries got bitter the bilateral games are stopped but team India also was changing, thanks to political, social & financial stability in our country & frankly no more Pak team is match for Indian team with due respect to skills of Pak players. At the same time the hard rivalry between England & Aussies which was at par with Bharat Pak, Aussies dominated it much of the time so the lustre of this rivalry also started reducing. But team India has emerged as Australia’s strongest opponent in all formats of the cricket, is the present scenario at the same time Aussies are team India’s nemesis, especially in the big games of big tournaments & that’s why any match with this team is special. As in any game impossible does happen but Australia is a team which is known to achieve the impossible rather than allowing opponents to achieve so, that’s why they are the most dangerous team!

If you say you know all this, then it’s for those who doesn’t know or think why Australian team is special & then for me cricket (just like forest) is not just a game or entertainment but it’s a life’s classroom for me & harder the subject along with its tough teacher then more precious the lessons of life are, so is Australia as an opponent! And in life also the tougher the opponent or the task, it’s an ability for you to test yourself your limits, is the first lesson I learnt! Now coming to first part of the sharing i.e. RoKo means rohit sharma & virat kohli & I won’t waste much words about their greatness especially in one day format just this, after the great Sachin Tendulkar, these two holds most of the records in this format of the game which includes maximum numbers of double centuries, to sixes to catches & what not, so be it! The latest team India’s Australia tour for three one bilateral series was supposedly these two’s last trip there & fans were super interested & more than that the critics! In any career, especially that of sports, when you are on the last phase of your career critics look at you the way vultures look at a dying prey, ready to pounce on your slightest failure. And first one day, Rohit got out on 8 runs while virat made a duck, India lost the match & the vultures were happy sensing flesh & blood! In the second game rohit made a gutsy 70 plus runs, virat made another duck & India lost again! Vultures were sure of the kill, though rohit has made maximum runs in the team, they said his run rate is slow & so his body movements & virat is done now etc etc! India has already lost the series with two defeats in row in three match series but it has never had whitewash in one day format from Aussies, so pride was at stake & for RoKo, something far more than pride was at stake, redemption!

And the both replied in the only way they knew, by their performance, unbeaten partnership for 2^nd wicket with century & half century respectively they delivered a massive win for India. I don’t go in figures as for these two that was never an issue, the point was not to prove anything but stand to expectations of their own self from themselves! At the age where most players choose to retire happily these two have shown willingness to play for the country & they wanted to prove their own decision right which they did! This is the lesson for people (including youngsters) who want to follow their own path & what it takes to do so is what RoKo shown us, again! Rohit shredded nearly eleven kg of his weight as he knew his age is not on his side so he balanced it with reducing age to make his body move quickly for the Aussie pacers & fast pitches. And for Virat even his enemy can't doubt his fitness but for him more important was to find time on the creese & that needs discipline & patience, he also regained that! We all face doubts & questions some time or other in our careers & in any field, especially when we are not in best of our form or say position & at such times instead proving something which we are not best way is stick to basics, work hard & play (or work) focusing our cores strength is the way ahead, which RoKo did & this is the lesson I learnt. As they both don't have to prove anything but just ensure that they don’t become a laughing stock of people (fans become people very fast in this world, one more lesson) & end their respective careers on a bitter note, & that’s what champions do, perform & end the career on high note! When RoKo will stop playing even from one day it's they only will decide but for now fans are happy, critics will wait for some more time & I become a shade wiser!

And about the second part, if your patience with cricket & life is still intact then, today the final is on for the women's world cup of cricket one day format! Just an interesting fact: the first women’s world cup was played two years before the first men’s world cup was played i.e. in 1973. As usual Aussies are seven-time champions & were unbeaten in the last 15 matches of the world cup. Has beaten team India in rounds by chasing world record 331 runs & nobody gave a chance to team India to march in the finals. Whatever little hopes were there they also seemed blown away when Aussies posted 337 runs as no other team than the Aussies has chased such a total ever! Team India’s highest run chase was 264 till now & that too in front or comparatively easier bowling attack & then this is stage of world cup semis, the pressure itself kills your performance with the burden of expectations! Here is a game lesson which team India gave to me, use the pressure as an opportunity to focus for doing best. This is very easy to say & feel nice but to absorb that pressure & deliver, well that’s what I watched team India doing in reality! As under the pressure only, even Australian team dropped some simple catches which also helped Indian team!  As well there had been some terrific individual performances yet it was a collective team effort where everybody chipped in & that’s what we all must learn, when a job or game is of a team then every contribution counts, however little it may be! A team of superstars can get defeated by a team of players who knows their respective job & stick to that only, that’s where the importance of discipline & system comes in, which team India did. We had some great players but we didn’t depend on them entirely but every player kept thinking how I can contribute in winning my team, that’s how you can defeat a team like Australia!

Indian captain Harman Prit said, she was fade-up of losing (as India had lost three straight games before the semis) & determined not to lose again, was the only thought on her mind! Jemima Rodrigues, with her maiden century broke down after taking the team to victory & frankly accepted her battle with anxiety & fears of not getting chosen in the team & yet raising her performance & that mattered most! All these are living lessons of grit, determination, dedication, fitness, ownership, team spirit as you can keep reading or hearing these words from many so-called Gurus’ of Boss people but the match was a live example of how to use these words in real life! Last but not least, Jemima thanked Jesus for supporting her in the post-match sharing & it’s an eye opener for a country which at present is being divided on the basis of caste & religion as nobody dared to troll her or insult her for praying or praising her god openly! This is what our country & culture is, where everybody is (and must be) free to pray & bow in front of the god he or she believes in & nothing wrong in it till we play under one flag which is, the Tiranga!

Finally, on a personal note I am sorry to Women’s team India as till this game, I hadn’t followed much of women’s team & always thought women cricket is bit slow & lacks the Khunnas aspect of game; today I swallowed my such opinion as this game was not just at par but beyond any game, I have watched of men’s cricket teams & I think that’s my best tribute to team India Women! I know, the final is yet to be played but so what, I am ready for more lessons, adios with the Dilse thanks note for RoKo & Women team India!

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Honey Badger & Lessons of Survival !

 

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“We each survive in our own way.”
― Sarah J. Maas

“Innocence is a kind of insanity”
― Graham Greene

“The fool does think he is wise, but the wise man knows himself to be a fool.”
― William Shakespeare

Sarah Janet Maas is an American fantasy author known for her series Throne of Glass, A Court of Thorns and Roses, and Crescent City. As of 2024, she has sold more than 75 million copies of her books and her work has been translated into 40 languages. Henry Graham Greene was an English writer and journalist regarded by many as one of the leading novelists of the 20th century. And the third name i.e. Mr Shakespeare, well plz google, rather if you have started reading this piece & don't know about him then a big salute from me! Ok, sharing is about survival so needless to say wildlife is part of it (and Tadoba also, lol) but it’s not about how wonderful forest is & why we must save wildlife & that blahblah… (sorry, that was for those who doesn’t like overdose of wildlife) but it’s about things forest teaches us (read as taught me) & ways of teaching! Guys, apart from beauty & adventure & conservation etc if you remember then best of tour childhood stories were from Isap Niti & Panchatantra & if you haven’t read it (God plz forgive such people as they don’t know what sin they have done again lol) then plz, plz, do read it now, as to gain wisdom age is never a criterion! Ok, those who have read it then who were the main characters of all these stories, they were animals & mostly from wildlife & if I am not wrong then Panchatantra is even part of many B-schools syllabus also! So, what's the common link between forests, Panchatantra, learnings of survival which is part or say by-product of survival, it is wild animals & what they teach us by their behaviour! Hushhh, hope I tried my best to make you realize the gist of the sharing in the best possible words so you can choose whether to read ahead or not!

Ok, recently one video got viral about a Honey Badger getting killed by tigress from tadoba & it’s very rare footage which either you can get from years (yes, years not days or months) waiting & camera traps at your service or simply you have to be super lucky to witness such action. In this case the tourists were of a later case & not only he got lucky to witness this drama but made us also lucky by being able to click the whole action! In buffers of tadoba, a honey badger came across tiger sub adult cubs of a tigress named Choti Madhu & the footage shows the way tiger cubs reacted to honey badger’s sighting & vice versa, eventually the scene ended with the tiger killing honey badger! I thought of writing poor honey badger but then realized there is no such thing as poor or rich or luck or bad luck in the forest, it’s all about what you have learned to survive & how you use what you have learned! This is practical side of wisdom but we are living thing & we have emotions, & I too am no exception so without shame I accept I felt sad while watching that video & silently cried the way honey badger confronted with the tiger & I consider myself a hard, tough person yet I couldn’t watch the clip even second time though watching it just one time has made me realize so many things about survival, which I wanted to share along with few other such incidences which I have personally experienced in the forests & has taught me some real important lessons. As well there are few lessons which we at large must adopt or one day we will suffer due to not learning from our own ignorance, which is the gist of my sharing!

Ok, about the honey badger thing, I am sure not many have seen one in actual ever this animal which is the size of a small pug (breed of dog shown in an advertisement of Vodafone). Though it has thick skin but by height it must be hardly nine to ten inch tall which doesn’t even come to the three fourth height of a tiger sub adult cub. Honey badger is nocturnal animal & to my knowledge even can’t properly see also in day light, always moves in darkness which is one reason of its very rare sighting in the wilds. So, this honey badger was in the open in daylight & must be practically blind or clueless where to go & when the tiger cubs saw it first, they also were confused about what it is & kept a safe distance. The honey badger must have smelled it & it is an aggressive animal & it charged literally on one of the cubs while it even can’t see what it is charging on! At first the tiger took a step back & when it realized honey badger is not at all a threat then in one stroke killed it & that's the end of the story. Lesson, I learnt is, if I am a honey badger then I must not venture into zones which are unknown to me such as daylight. At the same time a forest where bigger predators such as tigers & leopards or wild dogs roam then I must avoid open areas while the honey badger was in open on a road where there was no cover to hide & became an easy target for any predator!  And it hasn’t been trained to identify its enemies such as tiger as it hasn’t never encountered one & this is very important lesson, because when you don’t know your enemy then you are most vulnerable, so if I have to survive, I must know my enemy well then only I can decide right strategy in-case I get confronted with one such, even by accident, is the what honey badger taught me. Because honey badger doesn’t knew a tiger at all it tried to charge on it first while it couldn’t even see the whole of tiger with its limited vision & height rather it should ran away for cover & the tiger might have left it alone as the tiger also didn’t knew what is honey badger, one more lesson to learn! It's no shame to run away & live one more day than to show courage to take on an enemy which you are no match for, that’s what survival is about! Though the scene of small honey badger showing teeth & charging on the tiger making it to take a step back will linger in my mind for very long, for the sad end of that scene & again I know there is no sad or happiness in the forests, just lessons to learn & move on, rip honey badger!

This incident made me remember one story from Panchatantra, where a deer stag with the biggest & most beautiful set of horns used to have great pride in it & showing them off, teasing other deer for not having such horns was the main character of the story. One day when a tiger started chasing the herd of deer of which this stag was part, all deer ran away, the stag was the slowest because of the heavy weight of its horns & then he ran in the wrong direction, in the thickset while other deer ran towards the open land. The tiger got the stag easily, because it was slower than other deer & its horns got tangled in the bushes & creepers, making the stag stuck still! The story ends with the stag naming its own horns for making him vulnerable as a kill in spite of him praising them all along! Again, a lesson of survival, when you are a deer then understand what are your actual tools of survival than going behind false or showing things which will land you in danger than having any use of them to you! This is why deer always prefer plain open patches or meadows in the forests, as their main weapons of survival are, strong sense of smell & fast speed both tools are of no use in thick forests!

In one more incidence, while we were returning from safari, a big, well build wild boar was standing on the edge of patch of tall grass (in tadoba) & my guide asked me, sir photo leni hai kya (sir do you want to click it), but it was already getting late so we decided to move on & as we just crossed the wild boar which was so engrossed in its own-self that it even didn’t moved to give space to our gypsy & suddenly a tigress which was waiting in the grass nearby, leaped on the wild boar & holding it by its neck pinned it down to kill it slowly. It was a big wild boar, the tigress was pregnant & in normal case she wouldn’t have dared to attack this size of wild boar on her own in open as one, she wouldn’t have been caught hold of it & second, a grownup male wild boar is a powerful animal & in the hunt process the tigress also could have seriously injured which she wouldn’t have taken the risk in pregnant condition. It’s only the wild boar was not on its guard, either too confident of its size & power or just ignorant of capacity & speed of ambush by the tigress but in both cases, end result was it has to pay the price of its overconfidence / ignorance & in the forest there is only one price for your such mistakes which is, death! That day I learned my one more lesson observing the way wild boar got killed by the tigress & that is, never be of-guard may it be real jungle or concrete jungle! While in business or at work, you must be always alert & know that danger always strikes from the most unexpected direction, again may it be business or wildlife or any work you do!

And let me tell you, the survival game is not only for the weak or prey species, as in the forest nobody is an exception to the vulnerability of survival, even the tiger can’t escape this game & has to be always on guard. One will say, what's the threat to a tiger which is the biggest & most powerful predator in the entire forest but do understand the more powerful you are the more hated you become by all others & this hatred or fear (whatever you call it) from others is a big hurdle in your survival. As for tigers wherever it goes right from the birds or deer or monkeys. Every animal which senses or sees a tiger, warns the entire forest about the presence of the tiger & that's a big problem for hunting i.e. getting food, for the tiger which is directly related to the survival of the tiger. So, the tiger never roars unnecessarily or shows its power especially when it’s on hunt rather it prefers stealth mode i.e. tries to become non-existent while it’s hunting, as then only it can hunt without its prey being warned by all the haters in the forest, right? What better lesson than this there can be, by which you get to learn how to succeed in your mission without getting distracted by flashing your so-called success or wealth around than focusing on your target (do mind real estate guys i.e. builders, lol)! And then tiger cubs are most vulnerable when they have yet to become a full-fledged tiger & there have been incidents of smaller tigers being killed by wild dogs or leopards or even by sloth bears too! Again, a lesson, you may have been born in a powerful family or have great qualities but till the time you don’t become perfect on your own, never venture too far on other’s support from your safe zone!

And then in the forest its survival comes to you in many ways, if for a tiger now to show off its strength is also a way of survival then coexistence i.e. making allies with other weaker animals is also a way of survival, which are like joint ventures or say combining strengths of other parties! For e.g. friendship of languor (monkeys) & spotted deer, while cheetal graze on the ground, the monkeys on the tree can keep a watch around from the top & can warn the arrival of a tiger from distance alerting the grazing spotted deer! At the same time spotted deer can smell the presence of leopard which is a master of disguise or stealth attack & warn the of-guard monkeys while they are feeding or drinking water on ground! So, by joining hands both the prey species survive together, a system which we also can use in our concrete jungle keeping our egos aside & accepting our weaknesses on respective fonts of life!

Last & most important controlling greed & living by only the needs or necessities is the prime way of surviving for the entire wildlife which we the humans must learn! Have you ever heard of a tiger killing ten or twelve deer at a time & storing them for next month or selling its kills to other tigers? Well, I know you will laugh & say that’s why they are animals & we are humans, the progressed species but trust me that’s why the tiger survives (unless we start killing them also by our way of living, which we are doing anyways) as in the greed of securing our future, we are actually killing every resource & then we are fool enough to darken our own life by things like burning firecrackers under the name of celebration & polluting the very air which we are only going to breath & the list of our such foolishness is unending! One most important thing observing this survival game of forest I have learned is, discipline, as in the forest everything is about timing & that means discipline. At the same time when you are disciplined it means there is a system for living & it doesn’t have space for the most common excuse which humans are so used to & that is, “I thought”! May it be forest or city life (read as work), things don’t work on your feelings but by the facts & the way you face them, something the younger genre must learn & adopt

Friends, actually, this is a subject of PhD (seriously), as everything thing in the forest has a purpose & that is survival & with the changing values of our life its high time, we again turn our heads toward the guru named wildlife & start learning as well practicing the lessons by this Guru or tomorrow we ourselves will be responsible for our extinction! Thanks to the honey badger for making me a shade wiser by giving its own life!  Btw, you may ask, if survival is a problem, then how come human population increasing & you are not wrong but do keep an eye on the rate with which human population is increasing while at the same time every other species population including tiger to blue whale to trees, even that of butterflies is decreasing because of human population growth. There is one enemy against which no species has got any technique to survive i.e. the humans, & the humans have got only one enemy, we ourselves! And if you think I am joking then do mind, cancer is nothing but overgrowth of the cells which eventually eat-up or kill each other along with the body of which the cells are part of, mind it friends, adios with this warning!

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Sanjay Deshpande 

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Fear of Failure & Moms' Bday!

 

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“There is but one truly serious philosophical problem and that is suicide. Judging whether life is or is not worth living amounts to answering the fundamental question of philosophy. All the rest — whether or not the world has three dimensions, whether the mind has nine or twelve categories — comes afterwards. These are games; one must first answer.”
― Albert Camus

Albert Camus was a French philosopher, novelist, author, dramatist, journalist, world federalist, and political activist. He was the recipient of the 1957 Nobel Prize in Literature at the age of 44, the second-youngest recipient in history. And like all genius he was also intrigued with suicide & has written extensively on the subject! BTW, Mom’s bday & Suicide of youngsters, weird mix of topic, isn’t it? You will frown for sure but somehow while I was writing to my mom on her 80^th bday (a mile stone) I came across news about IIT’s / IIM’s taking efforts about restricting suicides of their students & I personally felt mom’s role is very important on this aspect than anybody else so I mixed it up in this sharing! Well, suicide is a very emotional subject & personal too, at the same time I am not at all a right person to comment on these aspects as personally I am emotional but I believe in controlling them & not to get controlled by the emotions! It's a tough thing to understand & even tougher to adopt, which I keep trying always, but that’s not the subject! Point is, in the last six months more than ten students from the only two above-mentioned institutes, have decided to end their lives for reasons known to them only but at large we can say pressure of success or say career! And not just IMI or IIT but very recently one cadet from the NDA (plz google for all short-forms) an institute which is supposed to make toughest of the officers which will be ready to give their live in the line of duty i.e. Armed Forces, killed himself & sure he too was not the first taking such step during training of NDA! Well, there has been suicide attempts all over the world & even the so-called successful men & women have chosen this way of ending their lives but opting for ending life option when you journey in the practical world has not even started, that’s something alarming & not right, which is why I thought of taking this subject along with mom!

First & foremost, what must be happening in the minds of these youngsters who have battled successfully to get through competition of millions of students & reach in institutes like IIM, IIT or NDA, is something worth studying(and thinking also). You have brains, you have ability to slog, you have determination, you must be a good reader because all these qualities are a must (in most candidates) to crack entrance exams of these institutes, yet when you get in here then you break-down to such level that you feel ending life is the easiest way out, why? The answer lies (my version) in two-fold things, one is you get burnt out or exhausted till you reach at this stage i.e. qualifying entrance exams of these institutes & getting in & your mental barriers has taken so much hits that even a small act can make you collapse & outcome is ending self-life! Second version is, your expectation’s level from your own self along with the society (people around you) that you crumble under it. It's like fear of always coming first which a topper only can understand. In simple words, first is clearing the entrance exam to IIT, second is again keeping the lead in that institute & third is, getting good placement while you are still learning! And do mind in an institute like IIT or IIM its fight between equals as most of the students which gets in here have fought hard to reach here & are used to do best in their respective groups so keeping yourself in the front of such bunch is more cutthroat & not many can stand that fight as already, they are exhausted!

Here is where the next topic of today’s sharing i.e. Mom's role, comes in to the picture as the institutes may be doing their things for keeping students at peace, the real & the only person which can make the difference to refrain the students not just from suicides but entire negativities of life is your mom! And I am not burdening any mom with this additional responsibility neither I am making any of the moms responsible as no mom ever will wish her son or daughter ending his or her life for any reason & won't train them for such outcome. I am blaming the students (yes blaming) as this genre in the zest of success has forgotten to pay attention to the lessons from the best institute in the world i.e. their mom!  Right from childhood mom is the one who knows her kid best & tries to teach them to survive in the right way in life. She may not be able to teach you maths or chemistry or economics, she may not be smart enough to operate an iPhone or make a PPT on laptop & she may not be even able to read google maps but one thing she knows sure far better than you & that is to stand to the pressure of expectations & digest negative taunts (trolling) from close ones for failures, which she knows is not a failure yet she keeps on! Your mom may be doing a job or just taking care of daily chores of house (I hate the term house wife as it’s an insult the way that term is used, rather House CEO is the right word) she has to stood expectations of every member living in the home & even non-living members also, whom we call a larger family. And these excitations include your own study output, too ironing clothes of your dad to keeping home clean to attending all family events to preparing food as per taste buds of every member & the list is on & on top of it, she doesn’t get paid for any of these jobs but when she fails to deliver as per needs or wish (read as whims) of an individual then she has to accept taunts for her incapability! Guys, just by observing the way your mom does all these things in your home & keep smiling (oh yes, that I forgot to mention, the mom is supposed to be happy & smiling all the time, that’s her prime job in home), this is live tutorial of how to face adversities & overcome them, is what I wanted to tell you today! Guys, I am not any philosopher or social media life Guru to tell you things such as, "life is beautiful, know yourself, let it go or stress is in allowing fear to win you", type things! But I will definitely tell you this, I was lucky to have a mom who knew the way to live & I kept observing her & adopting whatever I can & it has helped me a lot to stay on the right track of life! Because, as have I said already, every mom in itself is an institute of life & we get free admission in that institute & if we fail to learn from her then it's our fault & not of that institute’s! Your mom does want you to come first in every exam but never at the cost of your life, mind this always! Understand what she wants you to become & then you will realize many things about success which you have misread which is the real reason of stress & fear, is what I feel! No exam in life is last & nothing is more precious than your own life as only if you are alive then you can achieve what you want to achieve, is what your mom is silently telling you all along but you turn a blind eye towards her teachings! The time hasn’t run out still, just rewind tape of your times in the past with your mom & watch , listen carefully once again what she was trying to tell you by her actions & may be suicide can take a backseat & you will find an easier way to deal with your problems at hand & trust me biggest gift for your mom is not you coming first in any exam or fat package job you get in the campus interviews but you alive & at peace & happy is her biggest gift which is your responsibility & duty too, to give that gift to her!

Now, the second aspect of my sharing, my letter to my mom, do go through as you may find some answers to problems you are facing, is all I will say & do share with your friends too as he or she may not be as lucky as you to even have a mom in the first place…

 19^th Oct 25

Happy Bday!

A Mom is actually like a bank account from which you can keep withdrawing forever & it won’t ever say, “No Balance”…

Aai,

Today on your 80^th bday (well, due to shastrachandra darshan ceremony I realized it) above words which I have always used for my one of the most favorite books (bank) Zen Speaks, I thought of using for you. Two reasons, as the book reading habit (passion actually) is a gift by you only & second, if Zen Speaks is a bank for wisdom, then you are a bank for care, love, affection & most importantly rightness! As for different purposes we have different banks yet the aim of banking is supported by lending, so are you & the books too! Today, it’s not important how many years you have completed as thanks to your Cobra genes you were never much fond of the goody-goody or some mushy talks,  & unfortunately you have gifted myself & neeta with that attitude, so let’s cut it off! Aai, this is the generation of thanklessness or say foolish selfishness where kids bluntly tell parents, what’s big deal you have done this or that for us as that’s your responsibility but when it’s time to follow their own responsibility then royally turns a blind eye towards the same & I am lucky that you always taught us for being responsible towards our success as well towards our failure too & that has helped us to keep on the right  track!

Today, I won’t say you did this or your done that for us as the list is too big to cover in any letter but I will like to mention few aspects or qualities which you induced in us (as I am writing on behalf of neeta also) & I am not doing this to flatter you but for those (next genre) who will be reading my words (hopefully)! First & foremost, you wanted us to be successful but not once did I remember that you ever wanted us or asked us to make money! This still remains a big thing for me as it has taught me the importance of success without being blinded by the money aspect of it! At the same time, you made me realize the value for money concept which still stands very much important for me while doing business, that every rupee counts! Then comes aspect of rightness, which is the biggest gift you have given me without you even knowing what you have gifted to me as good & bad keeps changing as per the situation or convenience of a person but right & wrong rarely changes the side & only the upbringing which you made us to live by has done it. Today, may it be messaging in time for not being available for dinner or not choosing easy or fast way to the destination because it’s not right path, all this I am able to do in my little way because you made me able to define my right & wrong & gave me courage to stand by them, without feeling guilty or ashamed or ego!

I know you will say you have done nothing of all these things & you are right, as you were & will be a hard-core teacher & a teacher teaches syllabus without being bias toward the students in the class & from the same class one student can become right guy but another can end up as wrong guy, that’s not fault of the teacher! I was lucky to end up as the right one, because I believed in whatever you taught me or tried to teach me, is all I can say! Yet, let me confess, I was, am not always right & was able to live by what you have expected me to be & I have done wrong things in life, some I can undo, many I won’t ever but today let me confess a few more things! I am not afraid to face the consequences of the wrong things I have done in my life, as I know I did wrong & this doesn’t mean I want to label them right as if I am wrong then I am wrong & I will take that as my learnings & will try to be right as much I can! This part is important for rohit , rohan & other next younger genre I deal with as I will try to be as much right as I can for them so the torch with which you have shown the path to us, I will try to keep it burning when I am the torch bearer! So, if  I say thanks then please take it as a right gesture but I know real thanks which you will be excepting from us is, our actions towards the life which I promise to do my best, as that’s the return gift you will love to have, always!

Sanjay, Neeta, Rohit, Rohan, Paulomi, Kiran, Ketki, Nikhil, Hemangi, my friend circle, team Sanjeevani and yes, Bagira!

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Sanjay Deshpande 

smd156812@gmail.com

Sanjeevani Dev.

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