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“Maturity is when you stop complaining and making excuses in your life; you realize everything that happens in life is a result of the previous choice you’ve made and start making new choices to change your life.”
― Roy T. Bennett
“The greatest challenge in life is discovering who you are, The second greatest is being happy with what you find.”
― Oscar Auliq-Ice
“Growing up is an ability to find the purpose of your actions”. _Me.
Dear Dada & Chota,
Well, it's the end of one more year & start of a new one, depending on how you look at it & as my Bday also happens to be in this month, I look at it as a new start & opportunity to give you my yearly gyan.com dose! And trust me, I am thankful to you for it as more than you, that’s for my own self & especially the way last year has gone, & this year or say this time I soul-searched a bit more (many won’t believe but I do that) & that’s the takeaway for me for the year. And it does reflected even in my later forest trips also as when I didn’t get right shots & couldn’t work out how my new camera functions & even missed clicking some moments yet I told myself, I am here in the forest because I like to be in the forest & instead of enjoying those moments if I start about what I missed to click then I haven’t learned anything from the forests. As in the forest things happens only for some purpose & every animal, plant even insects understand their actions’ purpose & here I am, a so called most evolved species & I consider myself wise (a bit) & I am forgetting the basic purpose of being in forest & whatever that purpose is, it’s definitely not just clicking some frames in the wilds but a lot more than that! That moment I slapped myself (mentally) & I don’t have any regret now or frustration of missing clicking those moments & that doesn’t mean I won’t improve or learn about the camera or clicking such moments next time! See, that’s the crux, to give up or not to regret the past doesn’t necessarily mean you stop improving or else we will become a machine but what it means is, don’t carry or make your expectations your burden & take away joy of what you are doing! I know this is hard-stuff but then you are no more kids to explain life’s things via Disney tells though I do want you to keep that kid also alive in you & respect it always, again hard stuff!
Dada & Chota, what this means is, life is a balancing act & even the smallest of a kid is needed to do it, which it does in his or her own way but as we grow up, this balancing act thingy starts burdening us which we call stress. Why I am telling this to you is, because in your genre the balancing acts are increasing & reason is, you have too many things to expect as you can afford to expect them! My generation was lucky as we had very limited expectations from life & we were happy with minimum which isn’t the case with you neither it remained even with our generation as greed is our basic nature. For e.g. the moment I am able to buy a Wagon-R (nothing wrong with the car, just an example) & buy it, I start expecting a Honda City & the expectation race is on. This I have experienced in even the forest as when we see one tiger then we want to see two tigers at a time, & when we see two tigers then we want to see them walking together head on & when we saw two tigers walking together head on then we want no vehicle behind them to get a clean shot or else we get frustrated & in the process we lose joy of watching even one tiger, is my this Bday’s realization! And as your genre has already started the life with so many expectations fulfilled even before you expected them, your frustration levels are going to be very fast & very often, is my warning to you via this gyan.com & that’s why how I am dealing with my frustrations is what I am sharing you, which will (read as may) act like a guiding light of runway for you. But again, you can’t show light to the man who has closed his eyes (statutory warning, lol)
Speaking about challenges ahead, the basic difference between business & job is, in business your one wrong step can ruin you all earlier right steps, which is unlikely to happen in a job. And speaking about taking ownership, well I personally haven’t ever differentiated in working for myself or someone else as my job is my job, wherever I work & this year my belief in this philosophy strengthened more. You both must be wondering & even not liking a bit my strictness over smallest of the things but do mind, days are changing (rather have changed), first hurdle is you won’t get people who will work with you considering this is their work even if you stand for them & second is like yours, people’s expectations have also increased from you as a service provider, because they also can afford to expect! No more real estate is a monopoly of few ( it still is in certain segments but that also comes with separate price) & people have choice & money, so unless they think your product (which includes your service also) is worth buying they won’t buy it & to beat this you need to be hundred & one percent right & ready, I am not saying perfect, do mind! Margins have reduced & risks have increased & discipline is the only solution to deal with these challenges & for that a system in place is the way! I was (and am) lucky to learn discipline from my father though he never believed in gyan.com sharing yet at the age of 90, he is the way he is because of disciplined life he lived, same is true with Aaji about her persistence for tidiness & cleanliness, that’s again a form of discipline only! That discipline has helped him for physical fitness which anyways is important, even more than business or work but financial fitness also is outcome of discipline only, this discipline chapter of life I recited again this year & even our mind needs discipline for its fitness! Many don't understand the importance of mind’s fitness but that’s what this year’s best take away is, as if I can keep my mind fit then only, I can use that for better discipline for body & for work & which I will be focusing ahead. And for mind’s fitness few things I must practice, as discipline is outcome of practice & one most important aspect of it is, focusing on purpose of things I am doing, may it be planning a project, dealing with people, or even going to forest trips, I must focus on the purpose why I am doing this as then only I can make my mind more fit is what I have learned for myself this year!
As usual, the ten pointers for you from all this learning follows…
1.Learn to take ownership of your failures & give away ownership of success.
2.Do look back occasionally but never forget, the journey is always ahead & never backwards.
3.The best way to adopt discipline is, practice it.
4.Having regrets about our mistakes is good but what you do to correct them is more important.
5.No mistake can be corrected, as once a time has gone is gone, so focus on not repeating that mistake.
6.You can afford to be afraid of making mistakes but never be afraid of owning them.
7.Do expect the best of the things for life but never forget, you only have to earn them.
8.Alwyas be grateful & loyal to the people who have helped you to fulfil your expectations, however little that help may be.
9.Wealth comes to you in three forms i.e. money, health & knowledge; & if you don’t care for your wealth then don’t expect others will ever care for your wealth.
10.Don’t ever try to become what you are not, as that’s the main reason of unhappiness yet this doesn’t mean stop improving.(BTW, for that first you have to understand what you are, which I am still trying but at least I am on that path, lol)
That’s it, on a personal note, I haven’t been around much when both of you were real small (by age) & I missed those moments, and when I have time at hand you are on your way to live your life, yet, you will always remain kids for me & I will keep doing my bit in every possible way for you. Thanks once again to you both & yes to the younger gang Ketki, Nikhil, Rohit M, Shruti, Tanisha , Siya , Rakesh & Paulomi. Though many of you I rarely meet now as you all have your own sky to fly, yet because of you all around even 57 seems a small figure for me! Last but not least, “Be Kind, Have Courage & let the Magic happen”, this year only I came to know (wonder how I missed it earlier) Walt Disney also is December born, though that doesn’t change anything as I never believed numerology, yet small joy, knowing I share same month for my Bday with him! BTW, my return gift will be you reading this piece & do try to think over it & adopt it (read as improvise or customize it), & I will know whether you have sent me my return gift, without any acknowledgement or OTP number!
Baba
Sanjay Deshpande
Sanjeevani Dev.
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